It’s funny how people reference the age of two as “the terrible twos.” I actually found them pretty easy, it’s the age of three that seems to be testing me.
My daughter has recently found her independence and wants to do everything herself and everything on her own time. This is all great, of course, because she is learning so much right now. However, at the same time, she’s not listening to me as much as she used to. A likely story, right?
A two-minute time out isn’t really helping, as she willingly goes to sit on the steps, and giggles the whole time like it’s a game. I have to turn my back because I laugh too, sometimes. Some disciplinarian I am!
My daughter is in to stickers and loves getting them, whether from the doctor, school or dance class. So, I figured now is as a good a time as any to introduce a reward chart for GOOD behavior, rather than giving her a time-out.
I think telling her ‘well done’ is a great way to promote good behavior. I agree with the UK’s Supernanny when she says the reward chart will recognize when she does things right, and will give her something to aim for so she keeps it up.
I’ve picked specific things that I feel I remind her of daily. After the week is completed, (or mostly completed, let’s face it, she is only 3!) I will offer her a small reward. It could be coins for her hungry dinosaur bank, a new book or a special craft or project for just her and I.
These are some things I will include in the chart:
- Share with others
- Stay in bed, make bed
- Say please and thank you
- No yelling indoors
- Clean pick up, put away
This is the chart I made for her. I can print off multiple copies so I’m all set for the month, and even left a spot at the bottom so I can input what week it is. I understand these specific behaviors will change over time, but this is a good start. Wish us luck!